DON’T SAVE HER, SHE DON’T WANNA BE SAVED.
Why so many men mistakenly fall for the charming, yet self-destructive party girl…and wind up suffering for it.
It is in man’s nature to be protective over women. When this comes from a place of grounded masculinity, it’s a sight to behold. It’s when we’re at our best.
However, modern man’s protective nature is mutated and perverted by neediness—defined by Hollywood misconceptions of what it means to protect the women we adore.
This results in toxic White Knight-ism in the real world.
A White Knight is a variation of the proverbial Nice Guy. The White Knight (WN) is usually more deluded, egotistical, and self-destructive than the standard variant of Nice Guy. He believes that he’s meant to save women from themselves, rather than attract them.
On the surface, their outward behavior might seem noble, but they are disingenuous and misguided. They usually get punished by the women they choose to chase.
Don’t save her, she don’t wanna be saved - Project Pat
However, the type of women that draw in these unbalanced men are often out of their depth, and they get emotionally wrecked. They often deserve it.
Recently, I’ve noticed an influx of personalities and on Substack who embody the self-destructive party girl. They’re physically attractive, they convey that they’re morally conflicted, and self-reflective. They be can be charmingly blunt and honest with their emotions. Some them work as strippers, sex workers, or escorts. They know they have power over men, and use it. These type of women are like crack to White Knights.
Several reasons why these types of women can be alluring to men. It’s important to be extremely aware of these traits, and consider them if you find yourself falling, or developing deeper emotions.
Take this path at your own peril. These type of women detest Nice Guys/White Knights. They truly do not want to be saved and detest men who try, and will often destroy them.
They are usually young and very physically attractive.Despite living an unhealthy and self-destructive lifestyle, they are fit and beautiful. This is obviously the baseline of their appeal.
They are desired by large numbers of men. They wield this power, know it, and can still remain emotionally detached. Men are resources. Nice Guys, who are ultimately ego-driven, are drawn to this. They want to lock down the beautiful, difficult, destructive women.
They are elusive. They often have a large, active, toxic social circle and are difficult to contact, or maintain their attention.
They are highly socially calibrated due to their lifestyle. They come in contact with a lot of people, particularly women. Their social skills are extremely fine-tuned, this is the opposite of the Nice Guy, who has less developed social skills. Consequently, they’re eaten for lunch.
They are often also type A, outgoing, and charming.
They have plausible deniability. They often portray themselves as damaged and traumatized, rather than take personal responsibility for their choices. White Knights romanticize this portion of their backstory.
Additionally, these type of women are very aware and self reflective, and can project sense of shame and remorse. They also have moments where they appear warm, even nurturing, which conflicts with the other aspect of their persona, which is detached, uncaring, impossible to tame. This duality draws men in
Make no mistake. These women may project that they want to change, and convince themselves that they need a stable man, but they detest men who try to save them. At this alluring stage of their life, they want the opposite.
Beautiful Party Girls are almost always drawn to drug dealers or addicts, players, sociopaths, abusers, or other various miscreants. She craves an emotional rollercoaster—her life is saturated in Dopamine, new experiences, and emotional spikes. The Nice Guy thinks he can draw her in and form an emotional bond with self-sacrifice and a promise of stability. He’s gravely mistaken.
The grounded man realizes this, even if he finds her outwardly desirable for a moment. But it’s all fantasy. He knows that it’s not his job to save anyone from themselves, particularly women. He may view the attractive party girl as a source of amusement, or momentary challenge, but emotional investment in these women is delusion, a foolish investment in misplaced ego. He moves on quickly, allows the other misguided White Knights to fight the battle.
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