When a Man Puts His Freedom and Peace First
“Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.”
When a man truly has had enough, he becomes invincible.
Unfortunately, most men only reach this point after years of suffering, chaos, strife, and absence of appreciation in their relationship.
Western society has deluded men with false narratives over the past several decades—which place women’s approval above all else— where a man is expected to sacrifice his personal happiness and freedom for the whims of his woman.
According to this narrative, a marriage is something to be endured— not a source of happiness, especially for the man. You hear this manifested in utterly toxic phrases, such as “Happy Wife, Happy Life”, or referring to his wife as his “Better Half”.
Men of this generation are slowly waking up to this.
The societal White Knight hypothesis —the woman is more inherently valuable than the man—is fading. Men are beginning to realize that they hold just as much value in the relationship as the woman.
The reality is that the man is often the more valuable entity in the relationship, particularly if he is high achieving, high earning, has a certain level of status, and has a sense of ethics.
However, women’s beauty has always been put on pedestal above all else—even though beauty is easily obtainable, is common, and fades easily. A man’s place in the world is achieved over the course of decades under unimaginable odds.
A woman’s validity in society is guaranteed from the beginning— a man’s must be earned.
It’s crucial to realize that your dedication to personal freedom must be paramount from the beginning, not as a personal lesson after prolonged suffering. A dedication and authentic belief in the concept of abundance in all aspects of your life is the foundation to all of this.
Men make their most destructive decisions out of desperation and belief in personal scarcity—particularly in relationships. When you believe that the world is abundant, filled to the brim with possibility, only then can you truly put your personal peace and freedom first.
Great article Michael. Peace and freedom should be higher priorities and not the pedestalizing of women.
Thank you for posting this - I love what you say about abundance. As a male therapist I do see more women than men beginning to realize they hold just as much value in their relationships. Each gender can really get boxed in by certain pervasive societal values.