Great post - so much in common here with typical codependency patterns (also layers of covert contracts) that are manipulation disguised as selfless helping/accommodating. This is why when someone is first tackling codependency its typically not a great idea to start a new relationship but practice authentic connections in less intense ways first. Don't treat a potential partner how you wouldn't treat a friend. The most impressive people never prioritize their impressions.
Great post - so much in common here with typical codependency patterns (also layers of covert contracts) that are manipulation disguised as selfless helping/accommodating. This is why when someone is first tackling codependency its typically not a great idea to start a new relationship but practice authentic connections in less intense ways first. Don't treat a potential partner how you wouldn't treat a friend. The most impressive people never prioritize their impressions.
Good thorough explanation Michael. The book No More Mr. Nice Guy is solid and a favorite of mine now.
Thank you. Agreed— I think it’s a must read for young guys.